Moving on is hard to do. There have been a plethora of songs about moving on, so it must be true. Moving on after the break up of a relationship, divorce, death of a loved one. But not the loss of a job.
One of the best things you can do after losing your job is to move on. And before you scoff and stop reading, it is easier than you think. Remember, you have lost your job. Your partner has not left you, Aunt Matilda has not died and you still have your health. You have only lost your job.
Of course, for many years, your job has been more than a job. You have put in more hours than you have been paid for; you have kept your blackberry switched on even when on holiday; you have spent more time with your work colleagues than you have with your husband/wife/partner/dog; some of your work colleagues have even become friends. And now you are waking up in the mornings with nowhere to go, nothing to do. Your life feels, well, a little empty.
Losing your job is a loss like any other and it is natural to feel a little lost, confused and empty. These feelings may be more acute if you don’t actually understand why you have lost your job and/or feel you have been treated unfairly. The first few weeks may be tough, but remember that these feelings are only temporary. They will soon pass – if you take steps to move on,that is.
So what does moving on look like? Remember some or all of these tips and you will find your days become a good deal brighter.
- Follow a routine – don’t stay in bed until lunch time and slouch around the house in your pyjamas until time for supper. Get up at a reasonable hour, have a shower, get dressed and get out of the house, even if it is only to feed the ducks in the park.
- Take some time out to think about what you want to do next. Re-skill? Do voluntary work? Find a similar role? Take the plunge and work for yourself?
- Enjoy not working. Yes, you really can enjoy not slaving behind a desk for 50 hours a week! Always wanted to learn how to swim? – now is the time. Want to write that novel? Well, you have the time to make a start on it now!
- Stay connected – with friends, your family, your ex colleagues (well, those you want to stay connected with, that is!). Staying connected keeps you sane. Sitting around the house on your own doesn’t.
- And finally, don’t dwell on the fact you have lost your job, even if you feel angry and bitter about the experience. Life goes on – the wound of a lost job heals quicker than you might think, as long as you let it.